I've been in a very long distance (1200 mi) relationship for 8 months while we're both at school. Everything is fantastic, except for the fights we have at least once a week, all centered around the same thing. He says I don't care about him, or at least that he can't see it. These always end up as huge fights and only stop when one of us threatens to break up with the other, because neither of us wants that.

Basically, he says he wants to talk to me 24/7, and when I have plans that don't involve sitting in my room talking to him, he thinks that means I don't care. If he wants to talk to me ALL the time, he says I should feel that way too.

I love talking to him, and we talk at least 8 hours a day, usually more, but I can't just sit in my room all the time. I care about him more than anything, but one or two nights a week I want to eat dinner with friends or go out with people.

I don't think there is a trust issue, because there used to be and we solved it. We communicate really well, and when we actually get to see each other neither of us could be happier.

How do we fix this problem? How can I make sure he feels how much I care about him without the formality of talking for 24 hours a day (at this point we use AIM talk and even leave it on when we sleep).

No one can be in each others company 24/7 without at some time wanting their own space which does not mean they want someone else or no longer love they person they spend that much time with. It means they recognise their individuality and the need to be seperate. You must ask your boyfriend to not expect so much of you when you already give so much already. Set the boundaries strong now or it will cause bigger arguements and hassles further into the future. Ask him to trust you the same way you trust him and if he cannot that he needs to recognise the unfairness of it and that perhaps he needs to do some deep thinking about it.

Hope it works out for you

Kind regards

Sue

im thinking this is mostly an issue with being so newly together.
those chemicals are still floating around like crazy inside him, so hes wanting you around him 24/7
me and my ldr girlfriend were like that for 2 years, still knda are.
it destroys the relationship tho, so arguments start with stupids things, and i found myself becoming frustrated with being stuck on the computer as well..
so bigger arguments occur.

lay down the law to him in the best possible way you can.
also send him sweet love messages or somthing to let him know when you are out, that you love him and are thinking of him.
everyone seems to think all us men are tough and dont need love messages,
but ive always deep down desired that, so im sure he would too!
all the best!!

Suebh advice is best for you