i need advice about how to stay away from someone who is not right for you, and who after 6 years and an isolated attachment later causes you so much lonely pain without them that you physically throb. I do not think I am in love with him, but i did love him. He was my best friend, and my life so to speak- in an unhealthy way. I have two jobs and go to school full time, I don't even have time to breath....however....he was my rock and my constant companion. The fighting and the baggage and mistakes throughout our 6 year relationship was gradually intensifying. I need to hear from someone else who broke up after many years of marriage or living with someone and had to start over. how do you go out into the world and make new friends....how do you not contact your ex who lives 10 minutes away? how do you live alone and be happy when the quiet is so loud? Can anyone please give me advice.....

Unfortunately there is no easy fix. But it sounds like this was a very difficult relationship. And sounds like you were very isolated from friends and family. This relationship sounds very unhealthy and you were wise to get out. And sounds like you need to stay out. Resist the temptation to communicate with him or see him. I know it's hard, but from what you described, sounds like it is for the best.

You will need family and friends now. Stay in contact with them. You will need them for support and distraction. It is not good to be alone during this time. Rely on your friends and family for comfort and company. And if you don't have that then you need to get out and meet new friends. Join a women's book club or girl's night out club. You don't need to be isolated anymore. Take time for yourself. Try something new -- something that you have always wanted to do.

Don't sit alone listening to the silence. Reconnect with friends and family.

Take care. And let me know if you need some other ideas. I'm single myself and full of ways to silence the loud silence.

Picking up life is the best to do.
And there is a chance if you don't contact him that he will start to wonder why.

Start with sports, try to do things that make you look better and it will make you feel better as well.

also learn about self respect & how to love yourself! It helps people sooo
much because it actually works!!!