I had been dating this guy for about 3 months. I really was hopeing he was the one for me. Recently I tried to talk to him about my feelings and that I didn't know how he felt and kinda was looking for reassurance from him. Well he considered it complaining and basically overlooked how I felt and I was hurt and said some things to him I shouldn't of said. I did apologize but I hurt his ego. We haven't seen each other for a week and talking is minimal and when I asked him if we was gonna work on this or what he wanted to do as in work on it or go our seperate ways he just says I dont know. I feel like its a cop out so I basically called it off cause I felt his I dont know is a cop out. Did I do the right thing?

I am sorry for your pain. However, not all men, but the average man does not want to connect to our emotional sides. Most women are more emotional than men, who are more physical. I have had this very thing to happen to me on many occasions. It does hurt very badly. You feel as if this person should be into you on ALL levels, as you are with him. Sadly, it is hard to get some men to tune in to your emotional needs. My emotional needs are highest on my hierarchy of needs; therefore, I can truly relate to you. Granted, you may have been wrong in the hurtful things you said out of anger. However, the fact that he will not even allow you to apologize and offer you his forgiveness, further validates how "close-minded" he really is. We all do and say things out of anger, and no one is perfect. Does he see his wrong in the ordeal? He was wrong in making light of your emotions. You were wrong in lashing out. If he is unwilling to admit to his error, but you are, then you are already disadvantaged. This will not be a healthy relationship for you, for his pride will always hinder any success this relationship could possibly have. Even now with him saying, I don't know, he wants you to stroke HIS ego, but what about yours? What is he willing to do? If you start now always stroking his ego, you will create a monster who will expect that from now now. I have lived out this type of relationship, trust me. I have had to confide in others who "felt" me, because I knew my mate would only tell me to "stop whining!" Yet, when you are hurting, scared, confused, or the like, to be shunned away is the LAST thing you expect from the person closest to you. Next time, be upfront about your expectations in a relationship. Ask what his are. Let him know how important your emotional needs are. This will give you both a chance to decide whether or not you will enter into a relationship. Wish you well!