Hi.

I am not sure if I am looking for advice in the right place (this site) but I thought I might aswell give it a try.I believe that there are many things wrong with me, I just dont know what to do or where to go. Anyone with advice please let me know.



A brief summary of my issues: Basically I put my self in situations that I know I should no place myself in but I do not know how to stop.



Im currently in high school, my issue started my freshman year.

Since the age of 14 I have been meeting guys online and forming "relationships" with them. At first it started off with just calling guys over the phone and talking sexually with these guys. I saw it as fun, I am just realizing that there was something wrong. Since I got a webcam, now I perform sexual acts with random guys and girls on my webcam. I have my own site where I post revealing pictures of myself online for guys to see...I have just started to realize that I have been doing this for the past 3.5 years because I am INSECURE and I like the compliments for people I dont know. This needs to stop.



My original thought was to go to my family about this, but all it could cause is trouble. My family is strongly christian, and if they found out about any of this I dont know what they would do to me, probably ignore me for the rest of my life. The LAST thing i want to do is disappoint my parents.



HOW DO I GET MYSELF TO STOP ALL THESE ACTS? Im tired of the webcam shows, phone sex with guys and putting up revealing pics on websites. I tried to stop once, it didnt work.... I need advice please

*also please dont judge me on what I have done in the past, I am looking to change and I hope everyone notices that



- Jess

Hi Jess,

I certainly wont judge someone who already does that for themselves. Well done for acknowledging the change that is needed but you must do this for yourself and no one else. Everyone else does not matter in this at present. It seems to me that this is somewhat of an addiction and that is how you need to address this. I would strongly suggest you connect with a counsellor to delve into the securities that drove into this. In doing that you will discover alot more about yourself than you realise, alot of wonderful things. Everyone has a past, and very few are honest about it. You, still at a young age, have discovered that your past has brought you to a present that needs to change and you are now seeking fulfillment at a deeper level. Please try to connect with a counsellor, it will help. I wont be condescending and say just turn it off, as I recognise that is only part of the journey and not the complete answer.

Well done for recognising this and wanted to change it, that is the first step.

Good luck with this

Love and light

Sue

I totally agree with Sue.Where is a will there is a way.