This is probably the most annoying and weird situation i have ever been in. Basically, I have been seeing a girl for two months and we have gotten quite close. Through the past few weeks, a girl that I have known for 7 years has finally revealed to me that she has feelings for me. Now take into consideration that I actually think I am in love with this girl. We knew each other from Secondary School and the reason nothing ever happened before was because we were young and it just never happened. As we got older, around 16-18 our feelings started to progress and we were best friends. It came to a stage when I finally told her how I felt about her and how I wanted to take it to the next level. She seemed unsure and phased as it was a total shock to her. I waited it out and finally confronted her again a month or two later. She seemed slightly more open but revealed she wasn't really ready. Little did I know she was going through some mental problems, as she think she has some kind of social anxiety disorder and that is why she didn't want to. Things got worse as we carried on but yet we still stayed in touch as friends. With everyone telling me to carry on and her having her off days I thought I had to try and move on. I tried to and met this other girl who is really great. The problem is we are very close now even after two months. So then the other girl who I think I am crazy about came to me and told her of her feelings for me when I think I was slowly getting over her. She told me that it's taken me to partner the other girl for her to realise. It has become worse and I have no idea what to do. Do I leave the girl I think I'm in love with because she had her chance or do I end a perfectly okay relationship upsetting an already upset girl (for other reasons) and go with the girl of my dreams. (Also taking into consideration that she is so confused she could change her mind.) There are loads of other things that complicate this situation but I don't think I should put them in. Also I want an overall general view of this matter.

Btw I didn't know what section to put it in so sorry if its in the wrong thread.

Hi,
I don´t have any universal advice because it is quite an unpredictable situation, but I can try to share my impressions. Well, if I were you I would stay with the new girl (of course only if this new relationship seems to have a good potential to be satisfying for you and for her). I would not leave her and I would not change her for the "girl of your dreams" at this stage for two reasons:
-the girl of your dreams can change her mind, it is true, she can get confused after some time with you and then she can tell you that it cannot work, that she needs time again and so on, and she can have countless other complications in store for you...
-it can be that the girl of your dreams became attracted to you not mainly because of you as a person, but only because she knew that you had started a new relationship - this could have attracted her to you now in the first place...and if you leave your new girlfriend, then this main reason for her feelings for you can disappear. I would not risk it.
Moreover, she really had the chance and she made you wait and refused a relationship with you, so now -if her feelings for you were true, she could wait for you some time too..., so you can tell her that now, at this stage, you do not want to lose this new prospective relationship or that you are confused and not sure, you need time and so on and later you will see. But I would not end this new relationship now and I would not build any great expectations about the relationship with the girl of your dreams. Maybe, if later you see that things would be better and hopeful with her, you can change your next steps/decisions etc... but now I would really stay with the girl who is in love with you and who has a potential to create a fulfiling relationship with you.
But all this is just my point of view and keep in mind that I do not know the situation and I cannot be sure what is the right decision.
I wish you the best of luck in making the best possible decision which will make you happy in the future.
Have a nice day,
severin