Hi all
my problem is an odd one and I need a little perspective. I have been married for 13 years, have 2 children 11 and 8. I have an attentive, considerate husband who loves me dearly but... I don't enjoy kissing him! I feel that I should really, but it makes me think that if I loved him enough I would enjoy it.

Any suggestions/comments/advice?

Haha, I'm dealing with something similar. I've been with my fiance for almost five years. I love him but I can't stand kissing him. Hes sooo bad at it...he gets a little upset because he likes to kiss. I can't bring myself to tell him hes bad at it...

I personally don't think kissing makes the relationship. Affection can be shown in other ways. If you were completely disgusted by his touch that'd be an entirely different story.

If he enjoys kissing, give in every once in a while. Give and take, ya know. But he should also respect your likes and dislikes, especially after this long.

Ok....why do women never talk or tell their significant other about these things? If you aren't kissing him because he isn't a good kisser then it's your obligation to tell him how u like it and what he's doing wrong. If he likes to kiss and your not giving it to him he will find someone who does like the way he kisses. In his mind he is prolly thinking that the spark isn't there anymore. Although I don't agree with men(or women) cheating on their spouses I can see why they do. Alot of men and women cheat because they want something that isn't in their relationship. Whether it's sex,attention,or just plain intimacy. If you can't tell him this far in your relationship the problems you have, then working on your communication skills is your main problem.

Kissing is just one aspect of intimacy in a relationship. There are so many others ways to be itimate with your lover or show affection without kissing. Are you sure this is an issue for your partner? Maybe it's not.

Hi, I am a guy experiencing the same problems with my wife. Hopefully I can give a guys perspective. I find kissing very important, I agree with other comments that there are many other things to a relationship , but I feel kissing is very intimate and therefore needed. When I first met my wife we went through the early stages of our relationship kissing all the time, it was amazing and sometimes we kissed for ages and sex didn't really come into it, kissing was enough. Don;t get me wrong I am a guy so love sex :-) but kissing means more to me in some weird way. I suppose what I am trying to say is this: Sex and foreplay is one thing and essential but in my eyes intimate kissing takes things to another level. This maybe a typical guy reponse but when I was younger could sleep with alot of girls but I woiuld never kiss them unless I really really liked them. My wife doesn't kiss me anymore and I feel crap about it, she says she loves me but sometimes women need to show it, dont take that the wrong way. I need kissing in my relationships and I think alot of men do. Ask yourself these questions Has the sparc gone?, does he still do it for you ? if yes then why is kissing such a problem. If the answer to the questions is no, then maybe you've found your answer. Hope it works out