Hi all,

My partner cheated on me while I was studying abroad. It has been two years since I found out (he confessed to me after all my questionings) but till now, I still cant forget about this whole incident! It really bothers me!!! Forgiving is easy but forgetting takes years! We had an argument about this matter earlier on and i'm having insomia due to this! I just feel angry somehow as it brings back awful memories. I love this man and really hope that I can forget about this whole incident. Advise please...

hello,


if its been two years already maybe you need to start being realistic...this guy has really hurt you and thats why you cant see past what he has done. it such a horrible feeling to be betrayed like that and i know exactly how you feel. its amazing that you have tried to make things work with this guy, but are you sure it will never happen again? have you ever asked yourself why you wont allow yourself to forget what he did? you deserve to be happy and have an amazing lovelife. but it seems this is getting in the way. another question you should ask yourself is.. would he have told u he cheated on you if u hadnt questioned him?

Ive been here hun and I can give you this advice. I dont know you but your amazing women to want to forgive. The trust is broken but he has to build it back up. It can be done ive done it before. love your self it wasnt your fault. It happen and things happen but how we learn from this. This man needs to show you and when he does you will forget. there things he can do to change that. Tell him to go to counsleing and if he does thats a start to rebuild it.
If you scratch your arm and you just put a bandage over it with out giving it air it wont heel properly. dont cover this up talk to him rebuild the realtionship.. MEn have no clue what women go through. Im a man I know.

All I can say to you is I know just how you feel! It's not easy being betrayed by someone you love. And it's an even bigger slap in the face when you feel guilty for not feeling able to trust them again, even though they are the ones who have hurt you. Trust and forgiveness are two different boats! I am going through the same thing right now and believe me I feel for you! I hope knowing there is someone who understands makes you feel better. My advice is do something for yourself! Get your hair done buy some new clothes call a gf and get out for the next few weeks months if that's what it takes, blow off some steam. Have some YOU time to get back intouch with yourself and maybe sometime apart from him will allow you to do some self discovery! The better you feel about yourself the easier it will be to move on from his stupid mistake! U don't deserve to hurt! Cheers! xx